A few years ago, I posted Tarot Sex – The Top 8 Tarot Cards For Sex and a few months later, I surprised my Psychic Awareness and Tarot students by referring to cards with sexual overtones. Some students were surprised that cards could be attributed to sexuality, while others just smiled. Either way, it’s one of the more interesting conversations of the workshop series, and like the most exciting topics, the subject expands, hence Sex In Tarot, our second blog.

The usual contenders I talked about in Sex In Tarot were The Lovers, Temperance, Ace of Wands, The Devil, Night of Wands, The Star, Eight of Wands and The Empress.

Tarot Sex

What piqued my interest from the Tarot Sex blog and which needs to be mentioned in Sex In Tarot is a comment Austin, a commenter on my blog, made about the Ace of Cups….


“I’m surprised there’s no mention of the ace of cups! To me that is a very gushy, feminine, sexual card and even symbolic of a vagina in the same way that the ace of wands is phallic. I think it can represent the more spiritual and emotional side of sex.”


Consequently, the Ace of Cups is our first candidate.

Ace of Cups

Austin is accurate, and I’m pleased to include him in Sex in Tarot. The Ace of Cups has it all—fluids, the opening; it’s feminine and exceptionally sexual and an available offering. Just as the male is offering his phallic masculinity in the Ace of Wands, the female is offering her opening (the vagina) here. This is the woman with few inhibitions around sex. Although emotionally and spiritually switched on, she’s not about to open her legs or body to anyone.

Her partner would need to be as accessible as she is. She doesn’t mind how much noise she makes. Plus, she loves all the fluids associated with sex, from kissing to her vaginal fluids. It’s all part of the experience for her. Little wonder her guy (or female partner) would need to ‘get’ her because it’s a complete experience for her.

The Sun

Are they making babies? Perhaps, but take a better look. The child on the horse represents pure joy, the joy of life and, more specifically, the joy of sex. We can handle it further because this is the joy of orgasmic sex through vulnerability. When we’re vulnerable, we’re more open, especially in a safe relationship.
Interestingly, there is a vital growth component here too. The sunflowers show the Sun and its warmth. Oh, and don’t forget the red banner. Although red can mean luck, it can also be a ‘watch out’ warning. Someone is waving their flag saying, “Watch out” or “Watch me, I’m having a fantastic time here!”.

I often see this in readings, although I rarely mention it to clients for fear of embarrassment, especially for women who have a great relationship with their guy. Instead, I often say, “You look like the cat that got the cream”, as they enter the room. But, rather, they have that extraordinary smug inner happiness.


I love the stories around this card, and it’s essential to include it in Sex in Tarot. The success in Strength is in the woman. She knows what to do and how to do it. More importantly, she knows she can’t force the lion; her only tools are her ability to be calm, loving, and courageous. She may be vulnerable, but she’s not a slave to her feelings. This means she can use her attributes (love, courage, calmness, looks etc.) to unleash her sexual and animalistic desires. In some ways, we must be a little wary of this woman. Mainly because her yang side would say she can be the hunter, especially if she’s out with her ‘pack’ of friends.

I would assume in full flight, she’s incredible to observe, especially with her ability to woo a man into her grasp. In a group (or pride) of like-minded women, she would rarely go home alone. And although I know women don’t keep score as men do with their prowess, this woman is at the top of her class.

The Magician

The conjurer, watch out. Sex in Tarot tells us this person has all the tools of the trade. Sure, with her spirituality, but also the gift (of the gab?) of communication. They know how to use their attributes to manipulate. An interesting character, it doesn’t matter who they are talking to, they will have something to say. Which, for the person of interest, will sound very nice indeed. Don’t forget there’s other stuff here, too. They have tools on the table that leave a hand(s) free to wander.

That lovely little massage around the neck and shoulders. The hand on the breast (why wouldn’t she put a hand on his breast, or visa versa?). It’s all a part of this person’s sexual arousal coming alive. With drive and inspiration to invigorate the mood and move ahead. But, of course, the real pluses would be the creativity and passion that develops as the evening progresses; remember the infinity sign above her head?

Four of Swords

The Four of Swords is a warning sign. Here is someone lying down waiting for something new to happen; unfortunately, it won’t happen without intervention. The warning is in the mundane and boredom. If you turn this over for yourself, ask how the sex life is. Is it always the missionary position? All the card is indicating is you’ve become passive and routine. You need to wire yourself up to a powerpoint and zap yourself into standing up and looking at that beautiful stain-glass window for a few ideas. Or you can grab the sword below you and use it to fire yourself up. Swords are about the mental, using our intellect and mental capacity, in this case, to solve a problem.

The outcome? Use your imagination–a torrid affair, a one-night stand, invent and try some kink or BDSM……..

Eight of Swords

Tired up and bound, is this so bad? Not for some people. I know people who are into all levels of S & M or DBSM, and they love it—I’m not saying it’s for everyone, but it could be for this person, either a man or woman. It’s perfect energy because it’s balanced—there’s a choice. The woman is bound and blindfolded, but the swords around her protect her, so it’s a good mix.

If we look deeper into the sexual aspect of the Eight of Swords, we see the water they are standing in—this tells us just how sexual it is. Water is fluid. Put the woman on a bed and do the sexual thing, and she will like to have gushing orgasms—rivers of them. Similarly, a man would have a string of orgasms. Interesting times…….

Three of Cups

The threesome, the menage trois, woo hoo. You only have to look at the brightness of the colours and the overall lightness and happiness in the energy to know this is fun. And that’s the whole thing, fun. It’s not necessarily between three women; the mix can be one, two or no women, and perhaps all men.

The things I notice when I think of the Three of Cups are both the permanence and impermanence of the event, from an open, poly romantic relationship that can last for years to polyamorous experimentation on a one-night stand. Either way, it’s the celebratory aspect of it that’s important as well as maintained. It would be best if you thought like this, and it’ll be a success. I’ve always liked how each individual brings an offering into the event or relationship. The offerings can be food, money, housing–the tangible things–or the emotional, feeling something like passion, sensitivity, spirituality and creativity.

Seven of Swords

All a bit naughty, one of the more mischievous cards of Sex in Tarot. What’s that guy been doing? He’s been up to something! The guy has a secret; he’s dancing with swords in hand and doesn’t give a hoot that he’s left a couple behind, this is the tom cat that serves all the females in the street, and it’s a great game to them.

I have a client who is this person; she’s lovely—married, has a couple of kids, and every week, she meets up with her lover. Whenever we talk about it, she’s got a glint in her eye, and she’s been doing it with the same guy for years. What makes it so good is the secrecy; this can be the guy who goes off to a kink club every week, has a new naughty relationship, or, as in my client, an affair. I often think this is what many women secretly dream of, the bad boy coming to visit—some live the dream and make it a reality.

Ace of Pentacles

What’s happening through that gate? Let your imagination flow freely. So we need to look at this from two perspectives. The first is the picture we are seeing, the temptation is leading you, and you want to explore. Exploration becomes intimate; for example, the hedge is the pubic hair, and the opening is the opening to the vagina and all the wonder it provides for the explorer. From a female’s perspective, it’s the same. Walk through the gate, and your penis awaits; in both examples, the coin is the reward.

The second perspective is somewhat ominous, and we look from within the picture, looking back out at us. In this case, enter through the gate, and you’ll find a female egg ready to be fertilised. If baby-making is not on your agenda, either walk away or use protection. I have recognised these two perspectives by the card’s direction on the table. So, away from me (reversed) is scenario two, or as it looks in the picture, scenario one.

Two of Cups

The Two of Cups card exudes a beautiful energy that I have always been drawn to. This card depicts two individuals gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes while exchanging cups. The symbolism in this card is profoundly romantic and represents the many positive aspects of a healthy relationship, such as emotional strength, love, bonding, romance, integrity, and a profound connection. What sets these individuals apart is their transparency and lack of secrets, making them more likely to share intimate moments and others.

For example, in the context of a Tarot reading, these individuals could easily discuss a profound sexual encounter and provide explicit details without discomfort. I once had a client who openly shared their sexual experiences with me during a reading. This was not out of the ordinary for them since they and their partner taught tantric sex to groups and were accustomed to being candid about their experiences.