Win Him Back and Stop Divorce
A Step-by-Step Guide to Avoid Separation
Relationships
We’re talking genuine relationships—typically longer term—not your six-month fling. For us, it’s three years or more.
Here’s an example of a story…..
She came to me, convinced that her relationship was dead, and there was no way to resurrect it. She needed to work out how to leave, where to go, and when would be the best time to go. However, she still loved her man even though they had drifted apart. Troubled by the things she couldn’t see or imagine, like surviving financially, finding someone else to share her life with, and coping with loneliness, she admitted that these were not insurmountable challenges but challenges.
A few years later, things turned out to be more related to what I told her than she thought would happen. She was stuck because she didn’t want to hear what I told her; everything seemed too simple. She expected a drastic change and enjoyed it all done for her. She wanted a saviour.
I told her that somehow she would stay with her husband, but she wouldn’t hear of it. She was sure he was having an affair with another woman, but he always denied it (and I, as her psychic, believed him). Then, of course, her big thing came up. How could she win him back?
After he left her, she went into a complete meltdown. She consumed boxes of tissues, couldn’t sleep, took days off work, and went through the whole thing.
Break-Through Moment to Stop Divorce
Her breakthrough moment came after she listened to her psychic reading audio recording—something popped. She told me later that, for the first time, she heard what I was saying. Things like…..
- “This is about you, not him.”
- “Only you can change this situation.”
- “You over-think everything.”
- “You try to make decisions instead of choosing what you want.”
What resonated with her was, “Only you can change this situation!”.
Plotting and Planning to Win Him Back
This was the day she stopped crying and started plotting, and no, not planning to get even, plotting to get her husband back. And here’s where the story gets exciting, and it overwhelmed me because I didn’t think this woman had it in her to step up so high.
That quote, “Only you can change this situation!” made her ask herself the biggest question of her life.
“What do I want?”
She said it took weeks to answer this question because she initially couldn’t be specific. Then she got it…..
“I want to mature and grow old with Philip!”. It doesn’t get much simpler than that!
Now it’s your turn, and you must answer the big question.
Do you want your man back?
First, you (truthfully) answer the question above, and then you plot to win him back.
Your Plot to Win Him Back
You must choose to have your man in your life—100%. There’s no decision here; it’s a 100% choice. You’ll then put in a plan involving 100% effort and enormous risk. You don’t even know the steps until now.
You will follow this method, and you’ll do it by breaking things down into the most minor steps you can. Your preliminary steps include a trip to your local stationer and buying a large pad of butcher’s paper, felt pens, sticky labels, post-it notes, blu-tack etc. Next, you’ll find a place to work, select music, coffee/tea etc. Now we’re ready.
You’ll jot down anything that works for you—mind maps, scribbles, drawings, cut-outs, pictures, bullet points, lists—the lot, including a dream board.
The Steps to Stop Divorce
Please answer these questions to win him back….
#1: Who am I? Please know that you can avoid separation.
To avoid separation, it’s essential to understand yourself and your motivations. Consider answering these questions to help win your partner back: Who are you? What motivates you? How did you get into this situation? What habits do you have? Have you taken personality tests to learn more about yourself? What does your horoscope say about you, both good and evil? Do you always need to be right? Do you let your husband make decisions? Do you allow your sexuality to shine through? Do you love and appreciate your beauty? How do you captivate others? Do you have high expectations of others? What are your hopes, dreams, desires, strengths, and weaknesses? Do you tend to overthink things? How do you relax?
I think it’s essential to expand on these questions to understand better what your partner may not like about you, which may be causing them to consider leaving. Remember to prioritise your well-being and happiness, and consider seeking the help of a professional counsellor or therapist to work through any relationship challenges.
#2: Who is he? (You need to know this, too, to avoid separation)
This is similar to step # 1, except it’s for him.
Research is necessary to win him back because, unfortunately, you may not know him as well as you think you do. Could you speak with his family, friends, and colleagues to gain their perspective on him? Much of what you know about him has become blind and deeply rooted in your subconscious. Some things to consider include his personality type, habits, motivations, likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams, desires, experiences, childhood stories, weaknesses, strengths, and whether he is overprotective or over-controlling.
You’ll be amazed at what you discover and feel great when you do this. Remember to focus on positive aspects; if you encounter negative feelings, take a break and return to them later.
#3: What went wrong?
To take responsibility for the relationship, focus on yourself instead of blaming others. Stop blaming him, his mother, work, or anything external to you and re-focus on yourself. Consider the hurtful and spiteful things you may have said or done. How did you shut him down? Do you truly understand him as a man? What don’t you know about him as a man? How did you contribute to the destruction of the relationship? Did he shut you out, and if so, why? Were there any competitive aspects in the relationship? What were the perfect things about the relationship?
Could you reflect on what happened when things started to go wrong? Did you shut down? Who got angry? Did you become emotional? Remember, all these things are about you, not him. Look at the situation from your perspective, not his. While we acknowledge that he may have done something wrong, we focus on taking responsibility for his actions and working towards a positive outcome.
#4: Identity What You Need To Do to Win Him Back.
This is where you identify what you want. Remember, it’s the answer to the question above, “What I want is…..”.
To acknowledge what you want and work towards rebuilding the relationship, there are a couple of things you need to do. Firstly, allow him to understand, from his perspective, that you made mistakes and want to rebuild the relationship with him in your life. You can say, “But, honey, I want you and will do whatever it takes to have you in my life.” To avoid losing power, it’s essential to genuinely express remorse for your mistakes while maintaining a balanced explanation.
Secondly, you must prove to him and yourself that you are willing to improve. You want to evolve and become a better person, so you’re putting in the effort. However, it’s crucial to communicate these actions in a way he understands. Remember, he is a man and may see the world differently than you do. People interpret, assimilate, and process information differently, so judging it’s not up to you. Instead, be aware of these differences and communicate in a way he can understand.
Step #5: Do The Business to Win Him Back
To work through issues and improve the relationship, take the following steps:
1. Grab your list and select an issue to discuss with your partner.
2. Admit that you almost always need to be correct, overthink things, do everything, make all decisions, or lock him out, and apologise for being like this.
3. Devise a remedy for how you’ll improve and spend time proving to him that you’ve changed.
Remember, this is a slow process, and you should only discuss one or two things on your list simultaneously. It’s essential to remain on top of things and be happy, engaging, interested, loving, and nurturing during this process. Avoid being teary, emotional, or angry, as men may not respond well to these emotions.
Even if you only progress through these steps once, covering one or two issues, you’ll still have a better-than-even chance of winning your partner back into your life. However, remember that this is a revolving process of trial and error, and it may take time to work through all the issues.
Psychic Andrew Warnes
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