Holiday? Party? Just a few Drinks? Drugs? It’s Too Much.
What do REAL Friends Do? Tough Love Call to Action.
I have a message about tough love for you, and it’s essential. You could save a life. This message is unusual for me because I’m not a serious person. So this has no specific Call to Action because it’s a true friendship tough love thing.
What is Tough Love
Tough love is the responsibility you take for your actions toward others. The consequences don’t matter, but you know you could help or protect someone else. It’s despite knowing the process could greatly inconvenience you. You’re being responsible to yourself for the protection of or to help others move forward in their life.
Wikipedia’s definition
“someone treats another person harshly or sternly with the intent to help them in the long run”.
Tough Love Example
Perhaps the best tough love example is the parent with a drug-addicted teenager taking extreme measures to help that child overcome their habit. This could include locking the child out of home and not giving them any money for their addiction. So as you can see, tough love is not only challenging for the ‘other’ person, but it’s also rough for you as the caregiver.
My Tough Love Call to Action
Some months ago, I had to be brutal to my daughter with some emotional things she had going on. I found it as hard (if not harder) as she did. However, the emotional things she was tackling were things she had to deal with, and when she did, she would be more robust.
Specific Example for You
Now that I’ve explained what I mean by tough love, I’d like to talk about a particular instance that applies to the festive time of the year. I’m talking about drunk driving. What has this to do with tough love? Everything. Check out the Video.
Click here to watch the video in full screen.
A great example of rough love is not allowing your friend to drive home when they have had too much alcohol or are affected by drugs. Tough love is when you crash-tackle your mate to take his keys off him. Then, you call him a taxi and give the driver some money to take your friend home. Yes, your friend will abuse and curse you!
Tough love is when you do this anyway because you love this person and don’t want them harmed; more importantly, you don’t want your friend to hurt anyone else. This is what real friends do.
Call to Action ‘Rub’
Here’s the rub. What if that ‘friend’ continues to abuse you afterwards? After they have sobered up? Do they love friends? Are they worth having as a friend? Of course, they wouldn’t return the favour if you drank too much.
We spend all our time saying to ourselves and others, “There was nothing I could do” When there was something you could do, you could take responsibility to protect others.
Please, take a look at the video clip. You never know; it may help you save a life.
This is my version of tough love to you because I care for you.
Have the best outstanding day,
Andrew
