Self-Esteem: Crazy, whichever way you look at it.
You have a natural persona, natural energy and charisma, which is your genuine, authentic you. There’s only one small problem: your realistic self-esteem can mask you. Your self-esteem is your “I’m not good enough” voice that whisperers into your left ear.
Consequently, your natural energy, persona, and charisma can lead you into a false sense of security. The trouble is, it’s all hidden within you, and you may be unaware of it. Then you add a fair dose of success, hard work, and life luck, and you could find yourself on a pedestal. The pedestal is not yours; it’s one that someone else puts you onto, and you may be unaware of it.
I’m Not Good Enough
Years ago, I felt I wasn’t good enough for my former partner. She was amazing. She was elegant, beautiful, intelligent, and had an air of being able to look at me in a way that disarmed me. I thought she was fantastic, still do. Then years later, I learnt she felt the same with me. This was such a bizarre and crazy thing.
A few weeks ago, I spoke in a psychic reading to an overseas client who had fallen for someone, and a similar story emerged. The poor guy was distraught at this insight, which shook him up. I told him my story about my former partner and our self-esteem challenge.
This guy couldn’t believe it. His girlfriend was terrific because she spoke five languages, was brilliant at her business, had a wonderful family, and had many other beautiful traits. What he didn’t get was that she didn’t see herself this way. Instead, she thought he was incredible.
What is Self Esteem with a partner about?
Simply put, if you’re in a relationship and your self-esteem is low, you will think everyone is better than you, including your partner. This is all okay until you begin to lean on your partner for support after a while. You believe your partner knows better than you. Then you expect them to make decisions. This is all okay for a time. But what happens after years of marriage? Say 5,10, or even 25 years? You’ve entirely dependent on your partner. You’ve let your partner become the decision-maker, and you depend on them for everything. Does this sound familiar? You know people like this, don’t you……
What has to happen to Change Self Esteem?
It’s straightforward. It would be best if you started making your own decisions. Or if you think your partner has low self-esteem and you’re making all decisions, you need to get them to change. The change is relatively easy. Next, you need to strategise so you or your partner start making small decisions. That would be to get the person who needs the boost to make decisions.
I heard back from my overseas client a few days ago. He’s over the moon because I gave him strategies to boost himself and look at what’s in his life.
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