Can’t Make a Decision : Look at Your Decision Tree : Decision Questions
One of the things I’ve been teaching has been how to breaking decisions into their smallest parts. A few years ago I used the system and it worked. I moved from Canberra to Brisbane and it was example of how simple gig decisions can be.
Make a Decision
The first thing I did was to decide that I would move. I asked myself, “Will I move?”. It was a yes/no answer and the answer was obviously YES. The next question was “Where to?”, this was easy too, SE Qld.
So, here you are with a major decision. It could be anything.
“Shall I go for that new job?”
“Will I continue to work where I’m currently working?”
“Shall we move house?”
“Would it be right for me to move in with my boy/girl friend?”
“Shall I leave my partner/husband/wife? Or,”Shall I stay with my partner/husband/wife?
Lowest Common Denominator
Each of the decisions above has a lowest common denominator. Its easy to find it because you just have to be committed to asking the relevant question of yourself. My lowest common denominator was “Will I move?” Yours will be something equally as simple. Let the simplicity of the question flow to you.
It could be days or weeks before you ask yourself the next decision making question which becomes a branch of your decision tree. My next question was “When?”. I didn’t fret over this. It wasn’t answered for a couple of months because a couple of things needed to happen.
Two Things Need to Happen
Firstly, I needed to convince myself that the first question was viable. I did this by mentioning my intention to myself in self speak and to friends and family. Suddenly, this sealed the decision.I didn’t hurry it, I just let it happen. By mentioning my intention to others meant I used phrases like “When we’re living in Queensland”, “We won’t be cold like this in Queensland”, and “When we move….” etc.
Secondly, I needed to subconsciously, prepare myself for negative outcomes from those close to me. This was the toughest aspect of the whole process. Family and friends did not like the sound of my decision. They wanted to protect me by keeping the status quo and by trying to persuade me moving is a bad idea. This negativeness plays games with our mind and if we’re not careful we can easily lose sight of our original intention and decision.
The “When” Branch of Your Decision Tree
For me, my “When?” question answered itself. It depended on a number of things including travel plan and removalists. They all sorted themselves out with next to no stress. It was amazing.
Notice I still hadn’t worked out “Where?” specifically yet. This too resolved itself easily and it came down to what felt right at the time
You can see by my experience that I didn’t hurry the decision making process. I got stressed from time to time but I always kept an eye on the main game. For me, the game was my original decision to move to SE QLD.
There you have it. A decision making system which becomes your decision making tree. I’ve given you a real world example of how to make it work. You can use this system for any decision you need to make.
Lastly, remember you FEEL your decisions, and once you have made your decision send it to your brain/mind to creatively implement it.