We live in cycles, mood cycles.
When things go right for us and we’re pumped. We go shopping, buy new shoes, a new car, find a new job, and even jump into a new relationship. We think to ourselves “Now, I’m happy!”. Then on the other side of this when things are not-so-good, what do we feel? We invent statements like,”I’m Feeling down”, “I’ve lost lost something”. Perhaps there’s been an argument or disagreement or maybe even poverty. Moreover, by not being able to buy that pair of shoes or afford that special night out you think “How can I be happy when all this is going on!”.
Eastern philosophy (Buddhism, Hinduism) suggest both these states (happiness and unhappiness) are dysfunctional because being in this space you’re allowing yourself joy or happiness, you’re in a state of greed or fear.
What the Eastern philosophy is saying is when you think you’re happy or sad you’re actually neither because deep down you’re you’re experiencing the feelings of either fear or greed. I’ve always chuckled at this because that means it’s just as dysfunctional to be ‘over-the-top’ happy as it is to be sad. This is an irony because we’re all trying so hard to be happy all the time.
Here’s the rub.
Did you know that a beggar on the street corner in Calcutta could be happier than you and that you’re likely to be happier than the billionaire with his private jet, all those properties around the world in exotic place and his huge income? It’s true because…….
Happiness is not external, it’s internal. It’s how you really feel about yourself and the world around you.
What to do about happiness
I sit and meditate, usually once a day and sometimes twice. I call it my ‘No Mind’ time because my ‘me’ time I feel the bliss of nothingness or as some call it mindfulness. ‘No Mind’ is my own term for being completely at ease with me and the universe. It’s when nothing fazes me because I’m stabilised, balanced and happy. I’m not very happy, I’m in a state of just mild happiness. When I practice consistently my happiness state stays with me for days because I think my meditation ‘tops’ me up each day.
When I’m happy I notice the simple beautiful things around me. Things like that sunset last night and this morning’s sunrise and the guys chatting at the coffee stop this morning, Then there’s my partner’s voice and being close to her as we had coffee. After that there was my breakfast, and the sound of my water feature with the ambient sound of the city including the garbage truck.
Wasn’t that a strange description of happiness. Especially when there was no mention of purchases, buying, disagreements, feeling low or high. For me, it’s all just a feeling of inner being, mindfulness and happiness.
That’s me noticing my happiness.
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