Fear of the Dark You
We have that saying, ‘when the chooks come home to roost’. My chooks came all at once a while ago. I ended up in hospital with pancreatitis. It all worked out okay but the lead up? In one word, pain. Surgeons snipped and removed my gall bladder and I went through a major emotional reinvention.
Today, I’m you’re coaching example and I’m going to give you a couple of examples in the beginners guide to smart thoughts and empowering thoughts. The process pushed me to my version of the fear of the day you.
Doctors and Hospitals
There I am in hospital 5:30 am and in pain. It’s been close to 24 hours of pain, and with that intense pain I’m in fear. It’s difficult for me to move myself away from that fear. We both know that’s the nature of fear, it’s something that’s hard to control. I spend close to week in hospital, then I’m sent home. My initial thought is to do begin doing real work on myself! I have have to get my energy and mojo back.
A friend visited and gave me and gave it to me in no uncertain terms, “Andrew, do nothing. Rest. You’re body knows its business!”. This is exactly what I would tell you. I neglected to tell myself. So, I rested.
After a week, I start to feel better, so I go ahead with a previously planned trip to Canberra. The idea is to meet clients, see friends and attend my daughters birthday celebration. I realise I Still have to be careful because I get tired easily and I suffer a bit of ‘operational by-product’ pain. I do the Canberra trip, then head home to Brisbane and I’m idling along nicely.
Now, lets quickly analyse the process at work. This is the stuff that can help you.
Pain Can Cause Fear and the Fear of the Dark You
It doesn’t matter if you suffer physical or emotional pain. Pain is deliberating, it doesn’t matter if you’re suffering pain or not. If you feel fear, get help! You may think you can help yourself, and sometimes you can, generally you can’t. If you have intense physical pain? See a doctor. If you’re pain is emotional, go see your practitioner or call me.
Fear of the Dark You
There is a reason for getting help. Pain and what it means to you, sneaks up on you. When you remain in pain, your dark you emerges, you become irrational and you’ll likely to become depressed.
Rest is real.
Sometimes, you can go on and on and on. One day, you will need to rest, because you’re body is exceptionally good at getting you out of things you don’t want to do. This is why I got pancreatitis. My body was telling me something.
My process was, I rested. I saw clients, then I rested. I often felt tired and I listened to what my body was telling me and then I rested. Incidentally, I’m really lucky because when I saw clients, I found they boosted my energy. They got 100% of me and I gave them total commitment. Then I rested.
Smart Thoughts are Empowering Thoughts.
For weeks after may pancreatitis as I was convalescing I did not sleep well. I was up 10 or 12 or more times a night. The lack of sleep makes me tired and angry. Exhaustion does this. Then I wake up with an ah-ha SNAP, I get it. I’m angry, because of my thoughts. My thoughts are negative, below-the-line thoughts take control of me and they are toxic.
Positive empowering thoughts are like a glass of crystal clear mountain water, they give us energy. As you know, water gives us energy and the more we take on the better we feel. What could one drop of poison do to that water? Yes, it could kill us, or make us Ill. This is the nature of my drama-glue thoughts. I had them, they were toxic and they harmed me. Toxic thoughts will harm you too.
Do what needs to be done.
Lastly, I agreed to myself that I would see clients after about a week of rest. I love the people who come to me, I’m committed to them and I give them immense value in my service to them. In return, they pump me, they make me feel fantastic and yes, they pay me for my service, but payment isn’t what motivates me, helping them reinvent themselves does.
Do the things that rock you, excite you if you’re energy levels are low. Let the good things get you back to being 100% supercharged. Seeing clients does that for me, computing, website maintenance, and administration do not.
Find what supercharges you and go and do it, let this motivate you to do the other less exciting things in your life. And soon, you’ll be doing those other things with the same energy as before.
Have an awesome day.