A couple of months ago a client and fantastic friend needed a little lift. When I asked about her day she said “So-So”. She works in IT and a clients website was not working. Consequently an IT guy started bad-mouthing her to the client and others about the problem.
We all have so-so days. something goes awry through a mistake or misunderstanding. It just happens.
Helping my client was easy. You see, she’s been with me for over a year and I’ve seen how far she’s come in that time.
All we did was to fold-up yesterdays minor challenge (because that’s what it was) to the her bigger picture; to get her to remember what was happening a year, 6-months and even 3-months ago and what she’s achieved in that time. And believe me, that was a lot!!!
Too often we fail to recognise how we’re doing on the grand stage of life by concentrating on daily mishaps and problems. Those daily challenges and problems are what makes you star, they are what change you, teach you and help you make changes away from average to excellent. In other words, you learn by your mistakes.
You’re going to say, “But what about the bad mouthing, my credibility is at stake?”. Well what about it? In the big picture does it matter?
I know that there are seekers who come to see me who feel they didn’t get exactly what they were after. Indeed—one even mentioned me as a fraud. The world is full of people like this. I know that better than 95% of the people who come to me are happy and value what I give them. I know I’m not for everyone and I never want to be—occasionally, someone will walk through my door sit down and will be disenchanted with what I do. It doesn’t happen often, but it does happen.
If this happens to you, accept the situation, let it go and learn from it. Remember—and this is important—you do not need to apologise to the other person unless you did something wrong. Accept that the energy was not right and move on.
Two Things to Help You Escape from a So-So Day
Accept your 3%-5% of crap that there’s nothing you can do about it. Learn from it, and accept that you’re never going to be 100% for everyone. Also, that 3%-5% is what makes you stronger.
Fold the crap in you so-so day up into your big-picture. Remember, you’re a star and even stars twinkle.