I was in a conversation with a client a few days ago and she was asking me if I ever got angry. I told her, “Of course, I have, but not in a long while”. The reason I said this was I have no reason to get angry, I have a spectacular life and anything that is thrown at me, I take on the chest, analyse it, ask myself if it’s significant and if’ it’s not, I let it go. I have a rule, and that is, I’m allowed to be angry for 10 seconds and after that time is up, my anger is gone. I will not hang onto it because I know if I do it will take me down to a level that will not sustain me. 

Easy? Well, not really. it wasn’t always like this. I’ve always been an enthusiastic and optimistic person and naturally, there were times when I got angy.

The next thing the client asked me was “Would I ever get angry again if someone really baited me?”. I don’t know the answer to this, it depends on circumstances. You see, there is a place for anger, it’s an emotion that has been given to us for a reason. It’s a part of our array of fight and flight syndrome emotions. If we’re placed in a predicament or situation where we’re cornered and really need to fight to protect ourselves or our loved ones, believe me, anger will emerge and it will emerge very quickly. What I’m taking about is a life and death situation, where there may well be only one extreme outcome and one that happens maybe only once or twice in a life time.

Once ot twice in a life time? So why do we hear and see so much anger around? Because most of us don’t know how to stive for happiness. You see, there is not much of a place for anger in true happiness. When we’re genuinely happy, no other negative emotions allow themselves to penetrate our defences. When we’re not happy and fulfilled, we allow the heavy drama filled emotions to enter our psyche, anger being one of these emotions.

What troubles me about the anger we hear and see is how quickly it can be generated and for reasons that to me, seem minor.

What do you do if you get angry?

Check in with your self, ask yourself if you are happy when you’re feeling this way. Be truthful to yourself and give yourself a straight truthful answer.
Next, if you find it hard to move away from the anger ask what my great friend and coach Kurek Ashley consistently asked in his best selling book “How Would Love Respond?”. Actually ask yourself “How would loved respond to what I’m feeling?” and then if you feel you need to fake an empowering feeling until you make it. Pretend everything is fine and okay until it is.

You see our subconscious only works on the signals our brain sends it and by faking feeling great and optimistic will soon move you out of the way you’re feeling.

So What is your call to action?

When that negative thought or touch of anger enters into your consciousness, ask yourself “How would love respond?” and fake feeling amazing and happy until you are. I guarantee you too will be feeling fantastic in 10 seconds as well.

Have the best outstanding day.

Andrew

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