Missionary Sex — Four of Swords — Sex in Tarot

Missionary Sex Four of Swords – I can’t help but think of the missionary position when I see the Four of Swords—missionary sex that’s become passive and routine.

I wonder if everyone goes through ‘mundane’ missionary sex periods in their long term relationship. I rarely talk about it in psychic readings but I often get left-field  psychic messages that this is the case.

Ground rules.

Let’s get the ground rules straight. By ‘long term’ relationship, I’m referring to anything from five to fifty years and ‘mundane’ missionary sex refers to sexual boredom—sex has become wam-bam-thank-you-mam all over too quickly missionary sex or sex where it’s uninventive, passionless, no experimentation, no fondling, no fore-play (or wrong foreplay)—understand what I mean?

Take a glance at the Four of Swords image and you’ll see it illustrated. Woman (or guy) lying on her back while she’s being penetrated by the swords. For her, whether the sword is into her heart or vagina, it’s of little difference. And her mind wanders because all she can think about are things like; how uncomfortable it is, when it’ll be over, her work, what to cook for dinner, the kids etc etc. So much on her mind. Oh, and notice she’s got a suit of chain mail on. How uncomfortable is this! From the man’s perspective, the chain mail represents frigidity and coldness. missionary sex

I don’t want to get cut.

This scenario can be a little hard to get through and move away from because the missionary position Four of Swords has a whip-lash aspect to it. The challenge is due to communication, or lack of it because when you have another look at the picture you’ll notice three swords on the wall and one at the finger tips. The problem is boredom and neither want to do anything because of that fourth sword which expresses the thought, “I won’t say anything because I could get cut!”. Hence, a stalemate.

A woman’s nature.

Let’s look from the woman’s perspective for a moment. If we think about it, all the woman needs to do is move that left hand up to the handle of the sword below her and her world changes—she changes. You’ve got to remember the original nature of woman—her nature is not conflict or fighting, she hates that, but frequently that’s all she knows because those mental, conflicting swords have been hanging over her for most of her life.

Her true nature is softness, beauty, nurturing, emotional connection, being captivating, non-confronting, expressive, laughter, creative, adorable and harmonious. When she displays this nature, she’ll drive her man crazy with his ‘wanting’ of her—consider where the real power lies in a long term relationship…….

Another perspective

Let’s move to the next pic. Same card, missionary sex Four of Swords, same artist (Ciro Marchetti), and a different take on the meaning.

Ciro Marchetti—She’s moved on.

In this case there’s no chain mail—she’s open and vulnerable, or is she! What about those three swords by the feet, and the sword under her? This scenario has a danger element to it because the swords at her feet are away from her—this person has moved on. That sword she’s sleeping on (is she really sleeping?) won’t hurt her but, if she chooses she can draw it out and use it, or if the prospective partner suits her needs she can toss the sword away away, turn over and take him.

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Feminine power and beauty

If this is a woman she’s the epitome of feminine power and beauty. No missionary position, sexual boredom with her, she’s on top of it and if she chooses, she can go all the way to the top in sex and sexuality. This is the woman who can wistfully be taken by her man (or partner) to physical orgasm (clitoral or vaginal) and then beyond to the stars and Universe. She knows her true orgasm is not physical—it’s of the mind. For her, at this level, spiritual tantric sex is her ideal.


What about us earthy mortals? Can we reach these heights?

Yes you can, but you’ll need to want to let go of your sexual hangups about performance. You’ll need to be open to trust, to be touched all over the body, and most importantly, you need to learn about intimacy. You’ll need to be able to freely talk to your partner and friends about what turns you on and what doesn’t. Most of all, you’ll need to learn patience because our original card referred to boredom, passiveness and routine missionary sex.

Turn it around.

You can turn your missionary sex four of swords relationship around and to do so, whether you’re a boy or girl, you’ll need to take action. The ‘charged up’ version of the Four of Swords’ is fantastic; it’s adventurous, sexy, passionate, intimate and long lasting.

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